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['Twer conceive very differently, this Father's Day announcement with the too-cute-by-half bugling noise. I got humbled. My faithful blog mechanizm said it did, but it didn't. Send you a notice, that is. Two weeks later, working with the email designer, and over my head with other things, I am trying again to send this your way. WHY (be so bull-headed)? That's just me. AND, this is as important an announcement now as it was then.
If you've faithfully tortured your way this far in my whiney intro, you deserve the short version, "TA-Ta--Taaa!" etc. aside. I took some time to add some old (and new) friends to the subscriber’s list because of the new journey ahead. If I misjudged your potential interest in following my SHORT Gendads posts as part of writing the book of my head and heart so long delayed, shoot me an "unsubscribe" note at email@example.com. Would love to have you stay onboard with the hope some of you will add examples of generationally significant fathering and maybe even agree to an interview.]
We’re back to the delayed original: Bugling…might be reveille, the military wake up call. Could be my favorite sound in the wild, a wapiti, a bull Elk announcing his presence and, well, his really serious intentions. Really big announcements come with bugling. All of which brings me to this TA-Ta-TAAAAAaaaa!!
That’s me announcing a pivotal event in my life appropriate to FATHER’S DAY.
You see, I got me an editor. And I got me a request from a well-known publisher, too. Think it’s about time the Generational Fathering myth becomes a book?
GENDADs (.com) is about to become what it was originally intended. Matt, co-author and soninlaw, had wanted this space to be more bloggy instead of a rare intonation from ancient cowboy-philosopher-poet.
Here’s what you’ll be getting from GenDad’s now. First is “short.” Revolutionary, eh? Still provokative, or maybe just a prodding. Frequent due to the new function.
While I dig deep and do the hard work of the book, and it should take some considerable time, I’ll be less in touch with my “tribe”. But as I finished talking with Matt on the cell in his travels from Denver, this idea struck me. Hard.
Talking with Matt, I was walking to the arena with 9-(cum 18)-year-old Brooke to keep a promise to train her in the round pen on her horse, Holly. Dad, the equine master, has been gone. I am filling in. This is the essence of Generational Fathering…”co-fathering,” maybe, “partner-fathering.” Maybe “complementary fathering” is more apt. Matt is full-up with Deep Rivers Family Ranch and his therapy practice like most dads this age at the crux of their careers. Six children complicate things. Alas, “Popi” rides up on a white stallion, white hat, and a golden heart and a deep desire to build and leave a godly legacy.
So, I will be writing (and Matt commenting) as layers of our tightly wrapped lives unfold into stories illustrating our convictions supporting this bold new dimension of fathering in an increasingly fatherless world. I can take short vignettes out of our lives to keep the stories fresh here in GenDads. It’s a good way to demonstrate what “complementary fathering” looks like in the canvas of our lives. I’ve noted four in my pocket pad since wrote this. Our hope? Give you on either side of the father/grandfather role some food for thought.
If I am committed to writing three hours a day (many of you are so glad to hear, at last, “FOCUS!”) I can add a short piece, blog style, every few days. They’ll be way shorter than this transition statement. I use Hootsuite, so some of you will get a Twitter alert, others Facebook, and a bunch of my Deep Rivers Family Ranch connections in Linked In will be able to peek at the progress of our book and of our lives.
Oh, some of you know about the advanced stage of you-know-what and the chemotherapy routine I’m balancing with a “normal” full life. It’s a motivator. It’s about time I multi-task despite my wife’s 48 years of doubt. Dual primary tasks is a good thing. Leaving a legacy for multiple generations to follow and concentrating on the book as the premier project of this finish-well leg of the journey means no stinkin chemo is going to thwart God’s assignment.
Thanks, alas, for sticking with this last long blog. Any comments to encourage or re-direct let me know the admin rework worked.